what girls want in guys.

Hi fellas,

            I guess most guys might be wondering what we fellow girls look for in guys. most of you might think "its all about the money" when it comes to girls which in a way is kinda like the wrong notion. the question is , what really attracts a woman to a man or better still what makes a woman accept a mans advances. personally, a lot of things can contribute to the list but majorly,things like the under listed can contribute;

<1> Personality trait:

        This are the characteristic qualities of a person seen as a whole as having a likable or strong personality. Most women are easily attracted to men who are famous. this is because they derive joy and self-esteem associating with a famous person especially in the world of entertainment, sports, business, and all spheres of life. Because women are easily attracted to high personalities, a lot of people usually wear cloths that express their personality and it is these qualities that makes a person different and interesting from the others.

       Also, women are very easily attracted to men who have self confidence and it gives them the assurance that you can be trusted and relied on.

<2> Confidence

       Confidence is a feeling of certainty and trust in ones own ability, and this is why i said that women are easily attracted to people or a person who has confidence in himself  i.e  my problem with bayo was his lack of confidence and self esteem says lisa, a 20yrs old banking and finance student. Bayo is a graduate and was working with a calibrating firm. he always complains about everything from his job, to his boss and finally to his lack of money to spend like his friends have. He even has a low self esteem of himself and it always saddens my heart. When we go out to eateries, he is always worried and feels everyman in the room is staring at me. With this, he professes his love every time and tells me constantly how he doesn't want to lose me. Though it was flattering at the beginning, i now see him as a loser who is desperate to hold on to me as long as possible due to his lack of self-esteem and confidence that he would find someone else. He's attitude is beginning to choke me thereby making me feel imprisoned and I'm beginning to feel our relationship won't stand the test of time.

<3> Appearance

       Another quality is appearance. As we all know, a good appearance creates a good impression on those around you, even though things might not be all that good with you. All the same, men should try to look good in whatever they put on. This is because it matters a lot as long as women are concerned. Good appearance attracts the opposite sex a lot.

<4> Communication skill

        Another quality is communication skill. This is the action or process of communicating ideas and experiences with people around you. Women are attracted to a person whose communication skill, knowledge or ability is immense and as we can see, communication is very good and important in any relationship i.e Eric lacks the communication skill which i feel is needed in our relationship says bukky, a fourth year economics student. he is a year ahead of me and a final year student in the department of engineering. when we started our relationship for months ago,it was fun. we would go out to restaurants, eat together and finally have sex but one of the things that made the relationship look more like child's play was the lack of communication between us. Whenever i tried chatting him up or bringing up conversations, he always gave dumb nonchalant answers. imagine him saying scholarships are for the less privileged. i can't even remember a time when my boyfriend and i sat talking about experiences or exchanging ideas. i doubt if i can go on with this relationship any longer because the only skills he seems to have acquired are bedroom skills which he seems to enjoy more than talking.

<5> Humility

       Furthermore, another quality that attracts women to men is humility or being humble. Being humble when doing things with the opposite sex creates the chances of attracting, winning and getting their consent or acceptance. That doesn't mean you should underrate yourself simply because you want to show you are humble. Humility means modest or low opinion of one's own importance. What i mean here is that women are easily attracted to a guy or man who is humble instead of someone who is boisterous when chatting or communicating with them

  <6> Care 

         Another quality is showing care, affection and concern for other people. Your attitude towards waiters in restaurants, exes, beggars or towards people close to you can tell a whole lot about you as a person.

<7> Wealth

         Finally, the major and easiest quality that attracts women to men is "Wealth". Wealth as we all know means having a large amount of money, property. It also means the state of being rich. Women are easily attracted to guys who are rich. This is because majority of women enter into relationships based on material gains which they stand to benefit from such as money, gifts and a host of other things.

         Because of this, a lot of men believe that "genuine love" is scarce but "materialistic love" is common place or rampant. But then, women should understand that money is not everything though it is important in relationships.